So here I go again, another diet…I mean “life style change.” Will it work?
Will I find happiness as the number on the scale decreases? Will I become a better me?
For as long as I can remember I have been striving to be a
thinner, better me. I picture what I will
look like and how life will be better. I
see friends and co-workers meeting their weight loss goals and seek their advice. I work out with a trainer and join
competitions and programs, all in an effort to find the thinner, better version
of me.
Do I really think happiness can be found in a size 6
jean? Will I be funnier? Will people like me more? Will be kinder and more loving? Will I be….????
When I look at my friends, most who look similar to me, I don’t
see their weight, their gray hair, or any of their other imperfections. I see the people who love me, who make me
laugh, who make me think about life and how to live it better. I don’t pick my friends by their pants size
or any other superficial trait, so why do I put so much pressure on
myself? Why cant I find happiness as I am. I tell my daughter to love herself as she is
because she is perfect. She is how God
made her, so why am I such a hypocrite when it comes to me?
I could blame the unrealistic expectations I see Hollywood
and the media portraying but to be honest, I don’t look at people like Jennifer
Aniston or Angelina Jolie as role models.
I am smart enough to know that they have access to programs, staff, etc.
that I don’t. I also know their pictures are modified to make them look like
perfection. Rather, I look at my peers
and see what I want to look like. I see
the woman who has had five babies and wears a size 2. I see the mom that works full time and never
has a hair out place and is able to wear the trendy cloths without muffin top syndrome
(fat hanging over her waist line). These
are the people I see and envy.
My husband tells me weekly how beautiful and sexy I am. I am thankful he thinks so but I don’t. I know it hurts his feelings when I disagree
and that his opinion is not enough. I
try to see myself through his eyes and find comfort and peace with his opinion,
but then I see a picture of myself. I
see my cubby body and his words disappear and my insecurities scream all that I
lack.
As I was sitting in church this week, frustrated by what the
scale said earlier, I realized that I was desiring a thinner version of me more
than God. I spent more time thinking about
and imagining a thinner me than I spent praying or reading the Bible. I somehow made my body image bigger than
God. I didn’t think I could feel worse
but when I realized that I had lost my perspective and made my diet my God, I did. Not only was I losing the battle with my
weight but I was losing the battle to keep God my #1 priority. This was not acceptable!!!
So today I refocus on what’s important and pray that the
mean things I say to myself about my waist line, thighs and chubby face will be
silenced. I will continue to work towards better eating
habits because I am concerned with diabetes and heart disease but I will NOT
diet, I will not buy/by into one more program and I will NOT allow my weight to
be my focus. God, Husband and Kids –
those are my focus.
(If you happen to read this blog, please don’t comment on
how you think I am fine the way I am or with recommendations on how to lose
weight, as that is not the intent of this blog. To anyone who introduced me to a diet program, I didnt write this to offend you and the decision to buy into your program was by my choosing; you couldnt have known that I lost my perspective. Thank you)